Someone who truly loves you will make you laugh, share happy moments, they will offer stability and certainty in your relationship, wiping away your fears, insecurities, and sadness.
True love means living in peace, stability, and harmony.
These are the basic principles of a healthy romantic relationship.
We all know that it’s not always easy to find someone who is emotionally mature. It’s challenging to discover the one, who will always give us a genuine feeling of security. Someone who won’t cheat on us nor lie to us.
Nevertheless, there is something that we need to make clear from the very beginning: there’s no room for indecisiveness if we’re talking about love. Unstable people can’t build a good relationship.
This means that you should also give what you need to get. You need to be honest with her/him but also with yourself.
Successful relationships are those in which both partners feel peaceful and comfortable to be who they truly are. Being afraid to reveal your true colors is a bad sign for a relationship. However, when you do let go and show who you are, it’s purely magical!
Let’s try to analyze it a little bit more:
Someone who loves you will listen to you carefully.
Not only hear your words but actually, try to understand them. Understanding is a significant part of romance and love.
That doesn’t mean that your partner should always agree with what you’re saying. True love is having the courage to tell your partner when you disagree with them. Agreeing on everything, after all, would be impossible.
Communication is the key.
Listen and talk, and expect the same. It is so simple, but, unfortunately, many couples break up due to problems stemming from a lack of communication.
Of course, not everyone is good at communicating their feelings. A piece of advice to become better is to try not to hold everything inside. Say what you don’t like, what makes you sad, what makes you angry. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind and don’t get mad when he doesn’t.
Another tip is to be ready to listen when the other person has a complaint. Nothing is perfect, but you and your partner can make it as good as possible.
Apart from communication, self-respect is also key for relationships.
You don’t need anyone to prove that you’re awesome – you need to know it yourself. If you don’t respect yourself and your own needs, it will be tough for you to tell whether someone respects you or not.
But there are certain signs. For instance, when someone is not clear or sure about her/his feelings for you and asks you to wait for her/him, well, this is bad news. Someone who loves you and respects you will need no time to know. She/He’ll also respect that your time is precious and won’t waste it.
Remember that nobody deserves a “love” that is based on insecurity, instability, or manipulation. Peace and stability; they are more important than you think.
No one deserves a relationship that makes them fear that their partner might suddenly leave them. Where is the trust in that? It’s emotional manipulation.
Mature love comes when you are so confident, calm and steady that you don’t fear anything. You are sure that your partner loves you, and that she/he will love you tomorrow. You know that she/he respects you, and you respect them back.
And most importantly: when you find a mature, loving, powerful, and steady relationship, then please don’t let it go. Many people make this mistake, out of fear that they don’t deserve to be loved. Don’t do this to yourself. You will regret it sooner or later.
This article True Love Means Living In Peace And Stability was published on Thinking Humanity and it is re-posted here under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License